The first
day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know
someone we didn't already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand
touched my shoulder. I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady
beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being. She said, "Hi
handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty - seven years old. Can I give you a
hug?"
I laughed and
enthusiastically responded, "Of course you may!" and she gave me a
giant squeeze. "Why are you in college at such a young, innocent
age?" I asked. She jokingly replied, "I'm here to meet a rich
husband, get married, have a couple of children, and then retire and
travel." "No seriously," I asked. I was curious what may have
motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.
"I always dreamed of
having a college education and now I'm getting one!" she told me. After
class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake.
We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we would leave
class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this
"time machine" as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.
Over the course of the
year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went.
She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from
the other students. She was living it up. At the end of the semester we invited
Rose to speak at our football banquet. I'll never forget what she taught us.
She was introduced and
stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she
dropped her three by five cards on the floor. Frustrated and a little
embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, "I'm sorry I'm
so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never
get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know."
As we laughed she cleared
her throat and began: "We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow
old because we stop playing. There are only four secrets to staying young,
being happy, and achieving success. "You have to laugh and find humor
every day." "You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams,
you die. We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know
it!"
"There is a huge
difference between growing older and growing up. If you are nineteen years old
and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will
turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a
year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight. Anybody can grow older.
That doesn't take any talent or ability.
The idea is to grow up by
always finding the opportunity in change." "Have no regrets. The
elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we
did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets."
She concluded her speech
by courageously singing "The Rose." She challenged each of us to
study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives. At the years end Rose
finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago.
One week after graduation
Rose died peacefully in her sleep. Over two thousand college students attended
her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it's
never too late to be all you can possibly be.
If you read this, please
send this peaceful word of advice to your friends and family, they'll really
enjoy it!
GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY, GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL.